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u/toss_me_good 3d ago

Look he's not a monster but dogs require a lot of time, attention, and money. They also introduce logistical difficulties with traveling and day to day life. You can not want something because it doesn't make sense or fit into your life but still like it after the fact.

Many people shouldn't have dogs, they aren't for everyone and photos like this are silly.

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u/DrinkBlueGoo 3d ago

They're like babies/small kids who, even after 15 years, will still be toddling around dependent on you. It's weird we never see posts like "my husband didn't want a baby, but I decided we should and now look, he's holding it!"

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u/DumbBunny7 2d ago

I was just thinking this wouldn’t go so well if you were discussing forcing parenthood on someone.

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u/DrinkBlueGoo 2d ago

It's funny how it all ties together. No small portion of why it would be so much worse with a baby is they live a lot longer and their development reflects the time invested. Your kid turns 4 or 5 and it's well on the way to becoming a real live person and become more independent. Your dog turns 5 and it's learned a handful of neat tricks, but still needs you to scoop when it poops. By the time many dogs hit 9ish years, they're starting to decline while your kid is at their best.

That dogs may learn to communicate but never to talk is almost certainly a substantial reason that it's hard to lose a dog, but rarely results in the years of deep grief like losing a similarly aged child. Plus, dogs won't even complain to social services if you're moderately neglectful, so when you're not taking care of a dog as well as you could, they'll still love you.

Or maybe this is just how the trauma of being on the school bus that ran over my dog when I was in middle school manifests in me. Dude was stopped and saw that there were two dogs running around the bus then decided to go forward without getting eyes on them again. And he stopped me from getting off the bus while he spent at least 20 minutes on the radio about it. But, I guess we were still 50-feet from my driveway (and 10 from my property line), so, ya know, no way I could have handled that on my own.

Became the Head Bus Driver less than a year later.

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u/minniedriverstits 3d ago Silver Helpful Wholesome

When will you people learn? Dad doesn't want pets because he knows the sucking chest wound of a broken heart he will have when the pet dies.

It happened to him as a boy, perhaps more than once, and he never wants to feel pain like that again, or at least as infrequently as possible.

Dad is also often the one who has to dig the grave, and that task can't wait, not even an hour; the longer between death and burial, the likelier you will be to see your best friend in a state you will really not care to remember.

On top of all that - in Western culture at least - Dad is the least likely in the family to get emotional support while grieving, or even to feel comfortable letting people know he is grieving at all.

That is what Dad means when he says he doesn't want pets.

Source: far too many days in the hot sun, digging holes large enough to take a body in rigor and deep enough to keep scavengers away.

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u/Karnadas 3d ago

Pet dad here, I didn't want the responsibility of taking care of the dog. Taking him outside, brushing him, feeding him, vet visits, playing, and training. I didn't want to do all of that.

But when my wife got a dog anyway, I'll be damned if I don't give that dog a good life since he's already here.

I just miss not having to take care of a dog and just 100% do my own thing when home alone. I'm just never home alone any more.

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u/nezebilo 3d ago

This is probably the most realistic scenario.

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u/VillageBuilder 3d ago

I get it, totally do. But honestly, when I need time for me...I just ignore my dog. Taught her to tolerate being shut out of rooms early, and I'm just really good at ignoring her requests to play when I'm not in the mood. She's learned how to entertain herself. I totally agree I'm almost never 100% alone anymore, but I still do what I want to do when I need that time/space.

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u/Karnadas 2d ago

I have a pug who already isn't that bright, but he gets stressed when he can't be the companion he was bred to be. If I ignore him he doesn't go entertain himself he just stares at me. For hours. The empath in me can't do that to him.

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u/TinusTussengas 2d ago

And the dirty work is yours. I have been doing insuline shots for one cat, force feeding anti biotics to the other and vet runs for both.

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u/GenBlase 3d ago

Well it is a meme, funny only cuz we know the truth. Want love more than anything but the heartache is just so devastating.

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u/mmm_burrito 3d ago

It's only posted every time a "dad with pet" picture is posted.

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u/ChainringCalf 3d ago

And it should keep getting posted until these memes die

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u/scotti3pipp3n 3d ago

This is the exact reason i don't want a dog

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u/Guiro_1911 3d ago

They really do deserve the world, but dogs are content with just the essentials, as long as they’re with a loving owner. It’s why I don’t begrudge homeless people having dogs.

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u/Threedawg 3d ago

It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

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u/mephi87 2d ago

Exactly. Rejecting 10-15 years of joy just because of grief in the end is weak and disproportionate.

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u/Guiro_1911 3d ago

Would you consider fostering?

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u/AMViquel 3d ago

Isn't that just a different flavor of pain when you need to say goodbye? I couldn't imagine another pet every month and not going numb from that until it's a burden.

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u/QurantineLean 3d ago

The good you did for them far outweighs the slight hurt it causes you. That would be my rationale anyway.

I also can’t foster because they would never end up leaving lol. I honestly would end up adopting like 9 dogs if I tried to foster. Not that there’s anything wrong with that 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/scattertheashes01 3d ago

Same with me and cats lol. They would all be immediate foster fails 😭

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u/QurantineLean 3d ago

Oh don’t get me wrong, it would be the same policy with cats too lmao

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u/Thegenius760 3d ago

What is fostering? Temporarily looking after a pet?

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u/wholesomethrowaway15 3d ago

You’re the middleman between the shelter and the pet’s eventual “forever home”.

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u/TrollintheMitten 3d ago

Fostering pets can be hard in a lot of ways.

The last dog I fostered had been starved, chained up outside, and was missing part of her tail. She had to have vet visits a few times a week to make sure we weren't going to kill her with too much or the wrong food.

Seeing a dog unable to walk right and wondering if it was because of the rope marks deep in her legs was difficult. Lucky for us all she doubled in size, was fully able to prance about, and eventually got potty trained.

She got on with my foster cat but neither of them liked my own cat. It was stressful seeing the new ones bloom and be snuggle bunnies while my own cat was bullied. Once they were adoptable I created their descriptions, took more pictures and took them back to the shelter to give my own cat the safe, happy space they deserve.

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u/ZeusLightneeng 3d ago

I recently held the paws of my four year old girl and said goodbye after a two year battle with lymphoma.

I fought not to get a pup because I thought I’d know how devastated I’d be when that time would come. Turns out I underestimated my response by orders of magnitude.

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u/i-d-even-k- 3d ago

For a second I thought you lost your child, and I was still heartbroken, but with a different picture in mind, of a 4 year old girl with no hair on her head...

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u/kronicpimpin 3d ago Silver

When I get an animal, I accept the fact I will likely outlive it. Losing an animal absolutely does not deter me from getting another. When I have a hole in my heart from a lost pet, I’m left with unplaced love, I look for another animal who is need of that love and I continue the cycle. I’ll never forget the animals I cared for but I’ll always look for the next one to spread that love.

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u/rabidhamster87 3d ago

Yes! I lost my best friend of 16 years one month ago and it shocked me to see so many people on pet grief forums saying they'll never get another one. I wanted another one almost immediately.

Obviously I know they'll never be the same dog and I don't expect them to be. I'm still grieving and I'll always miss my sweet Toby, but there was a huge hole in my life and having a new puppy to care for has helped me a lot with the suicidal ideation. Now I want to stick around because even though I wish Toby and I could still be together, I don't know what would happen to my puppy without me. Ziggy also gets me outside in the sun every two hours for potty breaks, makes me laugh with his antics, and even gets me out of the house once a week for puppy classes.

Also, no one had to dig a hole for Toby because we had him cremated and his ashes are now on my mantel next to my dad's. I know not everyone can afford that, but if you can, maybe saving a couple hundred dollars by digging a grave yourself isn't worth the trauma?

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u/scattertheashes01 3d ago

I had to put down my 18 yr old cat earlier this month. It was very heartbreaking but her quality of life had declined rapidly and I couldn’t stand to see her suffer anymore. I will definitely want to get more cats eventually but for now I have another cat with, God willing, a good few years left in her (she’s only 13 and spoiled ROTTEN). When this one dies, I will grieve as long as I need to and then definitely get another cat or two. My current cat is my best animal friend and I love her to bits but I know if she could verbalize such thoughts, she would want me to be happy after she’s gone. If that means more kitty friends later then so be it. If I can provide even one more cat a happy, loving, and treats filled life then I’ll have done my job.

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u/Gul_Dukat__ 3d ago

Thanks for that

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u/RabidLime 3d ago

i envy you. a family friend is the same way, but it just doesn't sit right with me. i wish i was like that, but i'm more the former. it's a personal thing but i've had a very hard time getting a new pet after losing one. i've said goodbye to four after having agreed to say hello to only one, the other three were circumstance and reluctantly taken in. don't get me wrong, i loved all of them with every ounce of my being, but saying goodbye is something i still tear up over (even thought it's been 10+ years for some). but i'm wicked thankful for people like you cause there's so many furry friends that need our help 🥲

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u/kronicpimpin 2d ago

Thanks it’s never easy. Love is a precious thing that we all need to live, let’s not waste it!

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u/ChubblesMcgee103 3d ago

Texas clay. That's all I got to say about why I won't get a pet if I go back to Texas.

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u/wannabeakannibal 3d ago

And lets be honest his the one who takes care of it when the kids get bored.

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u/elmz 3d ago

And this is the reason I don't want a dog. I know I'd love the dog if we got one, but a dog is a big responsibility that I don't want. I'll be the one walking it every morning, no matter the weather.

On top of the fact the I like having a clean house, and I wouldn't want a dog that wasn't allowed inside.

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u/Zardif 3d ago

Also it's a pain in the ass to find lodging for it when you go traveling. I can't really go on a 2 week vacation and find a reliable place to put fido unless I drive him/her to my mother's house 5 hours away.

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u/Invisible_Friend1 3d ago

Yeah that’s $500 a week in Rover boarding costs that could go towards vacation instead if you didn’t have a pet. Dogs are for the wealthy or people with fabulous social support networks in town.

Dogs are expensive AF. Dog needs joint supplements and fish oil and $70 refills of gabapentin, dog doesn’t like the toys you bought gotta try new ones, dog has black nails you don’t feel comfortable trimming add in a monthly groomer visit, dog peed all over his $60 ortho bed now you need a new one plus $30 in waterproof liners, dog is allergic to affordable food and needs the $140/month vet food, dog isn’t telling you when they gotta pee and a schedule isn’t enough so now you have to buy waterproof pads ($40 for 2) and reusable diapers ($10 a piece) nature’s miracle ($12), dog has a tummy lump and it’s nothing but the ultrasound was $300, dog has barfing episodes for no reason and emergency vet is $400/trip to get supportive care, dog gets bit by copperheads you didn’t even know lived in the yard fork over another 3k. And your miserly pet insurance company refuses to cover a dime of any of it.

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u/MSB_Knightmare 3d ago

Its exactly how its gone with my roommates pets and I. So against them getting them, now the cat, that they got first, hangs out with me 90% of the day. Partially to avoid the puppy in all fairness

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u/DaelinD93 3d ago

Oddly, these are all reasons for me to get a pet. I feel strong enough to handle those burdens so that my children can experience the highs and lows of having a pet, and when the time comes, the loss associated with it. To the last point tho, I am making every effort with my children to show that sharing emotions is good, so hopefully that concern isn't a problem.

That said, still not getting a dog til the youngest is out of diapers. I'm not cleaning poop from more than one small thing at a time.

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u/Rotty2707 3d ago

Just over a year ago my 11 year old girl died while I held her. She got very sick very quickly and over the course of 3 days went from being completely fine to needing to be put down. I spread her ashes on her favourite beach on the anniversary of her death, and her collar hangs from my car rear view. As far as my head in concerned, I will never want a dog again in my lifetime. I couldn't bare to go through that pain again. Saying I dont want a dog again doesn't mean I wouldn't love one if my family forced us to get one, it means I would love it too much.

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u/Zdos123 3d ago

I always think i gave that dog a life, i did everything i could for the dog, it might hurt but the dog was happy that's all that matters to me, i'll keep getting dogs till i can't look after them anymore, the pain is soulcrushing though, i can totally understand your reasoning.

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u/Potatolimar 3d ago

Just over a year ago my 11 year old girl died

Homie I thought this was a human until you mentioned the collar...

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u/cauchy37 3d ago

I've seen like 3 comments, including this one, that start like this and holy shit even though we're in a pet thread my mind always goes 'oh no, the kid'. Probably skewed perception of a parent.

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u/Zealous-Fishmonger 3d ago

Eh, my dad never wanted or especially liked pets. He's not heartless, he'll give them some attention if they're there, but he'd rather they weren't lol. Inherited that from him unfortunately, I only like animals from a distance

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u/GunChamber 3d ago

You have no idea how much respect you've earned from me just now.

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u/oKKrayden 3d ago

I know the friendship is irreplaceable & I still say goodbye to my old cat when ever I leave the house years after she passed, but the deaths of some pets has hit me harder than family members & I don’t want that again for a long time.

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u/a_can_of_solo 3d ago

I don't want my dad to have pets because he turns into a bipolar nightmare when they die.

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u/LuvSpaghetti 3d ago

My friend, know I'll shed one more tear in your name the next time it's my turn again.

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u/iNeedScissorsSixty7 3d ago

My wife and I had two dogs, both rescues. They both died recently, of cancer. 8 years old and 5 years old. I'm never doing it again. We just dogsit for friends and family now. We're staying at her brother's place for a week right now to dogsit.

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u/5in1K 3d ago

I'm two years from my dog dying and I still get sad every day.

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u/Threedawg 3d ago

Do you have the date on the calendar or something? Lmao

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u/Jim_MacCishet 3d ago

Damn if this isn’t painfully accurate.

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u/thaddeus423 3d ago

Too true, my friend. I’m barely a man and have dug too many graves, myself.

Of course we love the dog. But we know all that comes with the life of another being that lives a much shorter life than us.

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u/Ryanthelion1 3d ago

First time I saw my dad cry was when our dog died, was such a vivid moment for me

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u/FungalowJoe 3d ago

Seriously, I don't know why this is difficult for people to understand.

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u/Burning_Orphanage123 3d ago

This doesn't apply to every dad. Some just consider it a hassle.

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u/Zangrieff 3d ago

Dog passed away last year. My dad was the one who cleaned the house and had to throw away most of the stuff belonging to our dog. We still kept a few toys, his collar and his urn

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u/_PrimeOverlord 3d ago

On top of all that - in Western culture at least - Dad is the least likely in the family to get emotional support while grieving, or even to feel comfortable letting people know he is grieving at all.

Nope, it's the same even here in a 3rd World Country

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u/pepinho89 2d ago

Oof. Right in the feels.

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u/i-dontwantone 2d ago

I have lost count of the number of pets I've had to say goodbye to over the years. And each time I say "never again." But as a wise friend of mine pointed out, "so you'd give up years of happiness because you don't want to be sad for a few month? Doesn't make sense to me." And, that's why I adopt and foster. The joyful moments far outweigh the sad times. But I still miss every one of my fur babies!

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u/JohnnyBrillcream 2d ago

Also Dad does not want to have to take care of the pet but will because Dad does not want to see the pet suffer.

This type of thing happens all the time in other areas. I say every season I'm done coaching my sons LL teams, 16 seasons is enough. But I have practice scheduled for 5:30 tonight because my want for the kids to play baseball is greater than my lack of want to coach.

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u/steijn 3d ago

Also he knows he's going to end up being the one who has to care for it, the kids just do the playing.

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u/PM_Me__Ur_Freckles 3d ago

Not only that, but dad knows that all the promises of "I will walk him/her every day and do all the feeding and weekend washings" will be for naught after a couple months at best, and he will be the one responsible for the new pet.

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u/Tetsai88 3d ago

I think a lot of people miss that it's not wanting the additional responsibility. Everytime we get an animal, I end up doing the majority of the caretaking.

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u/Uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu11 3d ago

That’s what all dads say until they get the dog.

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u/SeroWriter 3d ago

It's usually because they know they're going to be one taking care of it.

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u/TheseAreRandomKeys 3d ago

Almost all men love dogs. It's literally encoded in our DNA.

But we're also the ones who end up feeding, walking, grooming, paying the untold thousands in vet bills, and then ultimately having to say goodbye.

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u/tillie4meee 3d ago

our Greyhound is my Husband's dog. She looks at him and you see him slowly melt - he just can't help loving her.

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u/bouchandre 3d ago

almost

You got that right. I dislike dogs so much, having a kid that will eventually bed for a dog is a big worry of mine. I really don’t ever wanna live in a house with a dog.

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u/IfyouremeanIwillcry 3d ago

The dna part is dog shit.

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u/LostALife 3d ago

I don't think we have dog shit in our dna

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u/TldrDev 3d ago

Nah. We like taking care of it. Dogs are our buddies. My dog was the best fishing buddy I've ever had. We don't want dogs because 9 years is a blink of an eye, and then you lose your best friend. As an old as man, the dog is the only one who really cares to talk about my issues with me, lol.

Owning a dog is wonderful. Losing one is like losing a kid. Dads know how deep that friendship will go, and how bad it hurts to lose them.

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u/StudentOfLife1992 3d ago

So true. I have two dogs atm and I am probably never going to get dogs again.

Not because I don't enjoy raising them. But, I just love them to death and I can't imagine what will happen when I lose them. I probably don't want to go through that twice.

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u/tillie4meee 3d ago

We have a Greyhound. Our King Charles spaniel died at 15 last year. I said - NO MORE.

2 weeks later I was talking with a breeder and putting a deposit down for another King Charles. He is now my baby!!!

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u/IrieMars 3d ago

And this is their reward.

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u/tillie4meee 3d ago

And paying the vet bills....

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u/CampingPirates 3d ago

Also there’s nothing more heart breaking and traumatizing than that last trip to the vet. Getting a dog is like signing up to be emotionally destroyed in roughly a decade

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u/UnsuitableParson 3d ago

I very agree on you on that coz that's how my dad is to our 4 dogs

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u/alelo 3d ago

because they know the pain of having to let go in the end, and dont want it again

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u/Jancho27 3d ago

well the reason they are like that is not because they are against having doggo, they just remember the pain when their doggo left this world and don't want to have that pain again.

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u/awndray97 3d ago

Because they've all been through a few dogs before. And the hurt never leaves. Ever.

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u/UndeadBread 3d ago

Well, not all of us.

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u/ninjamonkeyumom 3d ago

Its what dads say after they said good bye to their best friend for the last time.

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u/GraemeWoller 3d ago

We got a dog. My life would be much more relaxed if we didn't have the dog, but my wife and kids live him so I tolerate him.

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u/Organic_Seaweed45 3d ago

Yeah, Dads are more hands on when taking care of a dog.

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u/MarilynMansonsRib 3d ago

My dad didn't want a cat. He and Mittens ended up falling asleep on the couch watching hockey at least 3-4 times a week.

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u/xxmybestfriendplank 3d ago edited 3d ago

Your dad and mittens sounds like they were keeping each other warm (:

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u/Chris-pybacon 3d ago

Thank you for this... My dad was the exact same with our cats

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u/Orphylia 3d ago

Same with my dad. The first one we got was a "surprise", he'd just come home from a business trip the day after we rescued our boy. My mom made him his fav dinner to butter him up and when he realized something was going on, we just brought the kitten out and set him down, didn't say anything else. The rest of that night was my dad giving us all The Look, refusing to touch the cat, but by the end of the night he was asleep on the couch with lil baby Miko curled up on his chest. Now they're buddies.

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u/justhappen2banexpert 3d ago

My dad was the same too. He told me that I shouldn't have a baby, but now he loves my son and watches him while I go to school.

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u/I_will_be_wealthy 3d ago

You lost me on watches me while I go to school

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u/Zozorrr 3d ago

In America, for some unknown reason, school can mean school but it can also mean college/university. Dumb I know, but that’s how it is

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u/FungalowJoe 3d ago

It might be because of the definition of the word.

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u/FungalowJoe 3d ago

Woohoo an entire subreddit of complete disregard for another person's wishes.

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u/DumbBunny7 2d ago

Yeah for forcing someone to have something they don’t want and then acting like it’s fine because they give in and love the thing they were forced to care for

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u/FungalowJoe 2d ago

So wholesome 🤗🤗🤗

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u/lyvanna 3d ago

Pets are a lot of responsibility and it tends to end up on the parents.

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u/anotheraltacc1112 3d ago

I'm betting Dad doesn't want to give up his extra hour in bed before work as he knows he's going to be the morning walker.

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u/WingChungGuruKhabib 3d ago

Its not about the dads not loving animals. There could be a myriad of reasons why he doesn't want one.

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u/Jack__Squat 3d ago

I love dogs (who doesn't) ... I hate owning dogs. Cute puppy comes up to me for some pets, no problem. Poops all over the yard, fur tumbleweeds everywhere, peeing in the house, a bed full of hair, stealing food when no one is looking, staring at me while I eat, preventing easy vacations or spontaneous long weekends: no thanks.

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u/NickDynmo 3d ago

My dad didn't want his floors or furniture or lawn damaged or covered in hair. Too much work. Plus he just never really showed much desire for an animal, independent of that.

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u/StraY_WolF 3d ago

Dads are experienced enough to know how it is to lose their love ones and understand how much it hurts. They rather not go through that again, but they also couldn't hate animals that knows nothing about it.

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u/LubedApricot 3d ago

Dogs die. It's always sad. They love you so much till the very end.

It's so thoroughly sad, that at a certain point you stop wanting to do it again.

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u/chillearn 3d ago

There is truly one for everything. God bless you reddit

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u/Strude187 3d ago

Dads don’t want pets because they are logical people capable of predicting a simple series of events.

Family get dog with the promise that members other than Dad also look after the dog

Honeymoon period lasts a few months if that, then looking after the dog becomes a chore

Dad now does 80-90% of looking after the dog

Dog and Dad bond as they now spend the most time with each other

Dog eventually dies, kids have moved out and barely feel the hit, Dad is heartbroken.

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u/Guzse 3d ago

Sure my dad's the one that trained our dog, and the one she listens to best. But I was absolutely the one that took it for walks most often for the first 6 years. How do other families not just share those responsibilities?

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u/wolfho 3d ago

Because imo kids are supposed to be kids and not adults. It's the same reason we clean up after the kids and give them a standing ovation for returning a toy car to it's place. We gradually turn them into adults without making that childhood worse.

The decision for a pet should be between the parents who will do most of the care.

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u/Guzse 3d ago

A kid as in 4 years old? Yeah, of course. But a 10 year old should be taught to clean up after themselves. They should help clean the dishes every once in a while. And when they are 14, let them take the dogs for a 30 minute walk. That's how you teach them to become adults, by gradually giving them responsibilities and expecting them to uphold them.

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u/Treeloot009 3d ago

You don't raise kids to be kids, you raise them to be productive adults. However, I know what you were trying to convey.

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u/hisnameisbrock 3d ago

I think it’s valid that some of the dads lost dogs and don’t want one for that reason.

But you’re not close to universally right. My dad never had a dog and didn’t want ours, he’s just an asshole. Still ended up secretly vibing with Winston. Mom did all the work. Mom was destroyed by his death, Dad was sadly mostly for his wife.

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u/Nylund 3d ago

The last time we had a dog in the house, all the responsibilities fell to me. The meals, walks, obedience training, attention/playtime, the vet appointments, etc.

That, and a dog makes everything from day trips to long vacations difficult as you either need to limit how many hours you’re out, or find a dog sitter or a kennel.

Dogs require a lot of time and effort and place real constraints on your life. I’m some ways, even more so than children since they never learn to talk, or poop on their own, and you’re not allowed to bring them everywhere.

So, for these reasons, I’ve told my kids I absolutely do not want a dog whatsoever.

But, of course, should they show up with one, I’m going to walk it, feed it, bath it, train it, play with it, and love it.

Those are responsibilities of being a dog owner.

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u/fooreddit 3d ago

I hate posts like these.I don't want anymore dogs because I don't want to lose 2 hours a day on dog walks anymore, but if there's a dog in my vicinity ofcourse i'm gonna cuddle like crazy with it.

I also don't want to take a sick dog to the vet again, I don't want to hold a dying dog in my arms again. It fn hurts.

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u/DudesworthMannington 2d ago

That's why I say I'm an "other people's dog" person. Scritches and playing? That's me. Taking him out to poop during a blizzard at night? That's you.

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u/ringpiece21 3d ago

Of course it hurts. It’s a fact that if you truly love something most likely one day it will break your heart. It’s the price you pay.

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u/lunarul 3d ago

It’s the price you pay.

And it's a choice you make and don't want others making it for you.

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u/mouseknuckle 3d ago

I think that’s exactly what they said, yeah.

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u/JuanDomingoDomingo 3d ago

Dads don't want the pet because they end up doing the work and having a connection with the pet while everyone else who says they wanted the pet interacts with it at their leisure.

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u/JuanDomingoDomingo 3d ago

"I am not going to love anything I am not legally obligated to."

-Red Foreman

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u/joegt123 3d ago

People who say that, especially parents, usually just don't want to be stuck taking care of the animal when the people who are supposed to decide it's too much work. I love dogs and cats. Don't ever want one, because I reject the responsibility of the care of a living thing.

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u/Red_Cap101 3d ago

Dads always say they don’t want dogs, but end up getting a new BFF

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u/velocity010 3d ago

Dads say this not because they don't like dogs generally.

But because dads know the care that comes with a dog and they don't want additional stress from having to take care of it.
Usually dads are like "you will have to take care of your dog" and the kid will be all like "totally dad i'll do anything" And then after the honeymoon phase of having a dog wears of the dad will be walking the dog.
Or when the kid goes to bed, who is supposed to walk the dog?
It's going to be the dad.

So dads are all like, damn I don't want extra responsibility in my already soul crushing life, we are not getting a dog!

But eventually they cave to their relentless children because they want to see their kid happy.

But he still takes a hardline stance on the responsibility thing.
But the dog wants to be friends with the entire pack, especially strong members of the pack.

And then this happens and the dad gets made fun of for giving the dog some love and happiness.
But don't worry we'll carry that shit for you to see you happy.

Give your dad a hug for me, because I can't hug mine.

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u/Toomuchmutton 3d ago

This yes so much

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u/Eren_Schitt 3d ago

I love my sisters Germans Shepherd but I’d get rid of him in a heartbeat if I could.

Too much work, he has a high prey drive and we have cats, he barks occasionally and nips your ankles every time you walk past him.

He’s cute and smart and I love the dog but genuinely he’d be gone tomorrow if it were up to me.

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u/Fean2616 3d ago

Sounds like he needs training.

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u/Eren_Schitt 3d ago

I agree but it’s impossible when 2 of the 3 people the dog interacts with regularly - reinforce bad behavior.

My sister was not ready for a dog, and she proves that every day.

Yet she’s too attached to rehome him, and I’m just an innocent casualty of war.

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u/Fean2616 3d ago

God that sucks.

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u/Patiently_Anxious 3d ago

I think they just don't want to clean up after them, etc. They're fine with just the fun parts of owning pets.

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u/Sin-A-Bun 3d ago

There is a difference between not liking dogs and not wanting the financial and care responsibilities they entail because you know your kids won’t adequately take care of them.

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u/datchilla 3d ago

Are the people who say this so heartless that if another living being was forced into their care they’d just neglect it???

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u/laithe4 3d ago

Right!? We got an animal in the house now, didn't really want it. What am I gonna do now? Be mean to it? No.

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u/Glitter21487 3d ago

My favorite pupper passed away when I was in high school and immediately after the family wanted another pupper. I was so against but the next pupper we got was truly mine. He followed me everywhere. Slept with me and protected me from the falling leaves of the massive oak tree outside our home. ( lol inside… fall was the longest season ever!) The whole family would try for his attention and love but he wasn’t having it. He has too crossed the pupper rainbow 🌈 but his memories are forever

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u/Nero_A 3d ago

That's probably cuz he's the only one that takes care of him lol

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u/aaronrizz 3d ago

It always happens because the rest of the family are useless.

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u/StonedOldKiller 3d ago

I didn't want Tom Cruise. The wife brought him home anyway. She said he'd get along great with the kids.

She was right...for the first week. Then they stopped wanting to take him out to do his business. They stopped walking him after school. When he would jump up on their legs, they wouldn't pet him as long or as often. It was a damned shame.

Who had to step in? Me. Dad.

Things are different these days. Tom Cruise naps with me, goes for coffee with me, hell, I even take ol' Tomahawk to work sometimes. I paid for Tom's shots, I paid for Tom's neutering, I bought a nice set of clippers, so that I can make Tom look nice and presentable, and I only buy him the finest of veterinarian recommended food.

I didn't want Tom Cruise, but damnit, I can't imagine my life without him.

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u/OTee_D 3d ago

But at least, after the success of "Maverick" your whole family has a nice life I guess.

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u/Samadwastaken 3d ago

My dad didn't want a dog.

So we didn't get one

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u/Jona_cc 3d ago

I love dogs but afraid to have one as I hate the day would come I will have to say goodbye to him/her :(

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u/MoSummoner 3d ago

Happened with my rabbit :D My dad loves to chill with the rabbit and my mom doesn’t want it anywhere near her but is always looking out for it

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u/-transcendent- 3d ago

I love pets. I just don’t want the unnecessary extra responsibility of taking care of it. Don’t just gift people a random pet if they don’t want one.

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u/Ridethelightning1987 2d ago

I see these a lot. Would you like to know why? And no, it’s not because he hates dogs. And he may even outwardly say this but I’ll tell you why. 9 out of 10 times it’s because he had a favorite dog that he absolutely loved. They was probably best friends. Inseparable even. And one day that changed. His best friend was taken from him some how. So he vowed to never do that again. Let himself love something so dearly that no matter what shows the exact same love if not more than any person has showed him. Such is the love of a dog. We truly don’t deserve them.

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u/AJ_Crowley_29 3d ago

My dad was like this with our first dog.

And my dog.

And my brother’s dog most recently.

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u/Fun-Rub9877 3d ago

Dads are tired of watching dogs get sick and die.

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u/skinflakesyummy 3d ago

This isn't as sweet as you think. People only say that because they don't want to have any real responsibility for the dog, won't train it, feed it, let it out, etc, but will gladly take the cuddles and attention.

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u/lhayes238 3d ago

I think dads are liars and they do want the pet but they don't want to clean up after it so they pretend that they don't want it so they can say "fine but you're taking care of it"

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u/VVHYY 3d ago

As a Dad with the cutest little 7 month old beagle mix you've ever seen you are completely wrong. I didn't want the dog, I would celebrate if the family agreed to let another loving family take the dog, but I will never not take care of the dog and show it the love and affection it needs. And believe me, no amount of "fine but you're taking care of it" results in anyone but me taking care of it.

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u/RealisticRetirement 3d ago

Dads will say no at first but will love the dog like his own when he had it

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u/coffedrank 3d ago

and then remember why he didnt want another dog when it dies

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u/NmlsFool 3d ago

Hmm, this reminds me of my dad. He absolutely did not want a dog. Guess who was sitting on the font seat with my dad when he drove to go fishing? The dog. Who was sitting with him on the boat, fishing? The dog. Who went out with my dad to go find some blueberries? The dog. Who was most eagerly helping my dad carry firewood? The dog.

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u/LostCache 3d ago

I think no one truly hates dogs.

Even a cat person…..

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u/bluntologist1291 3d ago

I studied psychology… when a man says he doesn’t want a dog is because he intrinsically and subconsciously believes that showing affection will make him look like a lesser man. But when he is exposed to a cute companion he can’t help but get attached and exposing his true docile and loving nature. Facts.

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u/mcm485 3d ago

I'm happy you studied psychology, but as a father of four I can speak directly to this. We usually don't fear looking like less of a man by looking cute or showing love. Putting bow ties in my beard and making a little girl laugh is always worth it and of course cute pets are great.

Pets are more responsibility. We tend to be the ones cleaning up the yard, training, carrying them into the vet when they're sick and ultimately we tend to deal with the end of life. It can be really hard to carry the extra responsibility on top of everything else being a dad comes with. I seriously doubt many men turn down these opportunities for fear of social perceptions. But what do I know, I didn't study psychology, just life. Good luck with the rest of your studies on being objective and open minded! ❤️

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u/GuanacoCosmico 3d ago

Seems like you get your facts with a conclusion you like, and then you make up an explanation fitting your conclusion.

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u/ted_bronson 3d ago

Seems that you still have much to learn. Including humbleness

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u/bluntologist1291 3d ago

You mean humility? ‘‘Twas a joke. Nothing more

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u/glipglop718 3d ago

Me for sure

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u/The_Panda_Smacker 3d ago

My mom is that way. My dad has had a dog most of his life

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u/Ok-Letterhead4601 3d ago

I was going to make a comment but it’s sad and I don’t want to ruin everyone’s night/day, have a great day/night everyone.

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u/Duskinou 3d ago

Dog is a man's best friend

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u/dr4gonr1der 3d ago

The memes are true!

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u/14high 3d ago

Dog: we got him dawg

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u/Large_Goal_1068 3d ago

They always grow on ya

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u/sportsfan510 3d ago

We don’t deserve dogs 🥹

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u/Level-Strawberry-564 3d ago

I'm feeling relieved when my dogs always do this to me after work.

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u/treefucker83917 3d ago

my dad did that to my two dogs he now cries if he accidentally stands on their paws

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u/ArcaninesFirepower 3d ago

My dad has a small dog that I really don't like. He is the biggest mooch on the planet and for whatever reason refuses to go outside, will sometimes poop on the floor, and once pissed in my room, next to me, while I was sleeping. This little shit of a dog has deemed me his favorite.

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u/alex200902 3d ago

thats me all the time haha well part from being a dad

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u/elheber 3d ago

After the kids reach a certain age, only the dog will listen to you without taking back.

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u/OTee_D 3d ago

May be, but nobody told the dog!

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u/robothelicopter 3d ago

I feel that this is a universal dad thing

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u/Admirable-Book3237 3d ago

That’s pitty those dofus pups demand Lov ! And they always get what they want

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u/TheMightyMudcrab 3d ago

It's not that they don't want it. They know they do they will love the bugger for years and years. It's the searing heartbreak when the dog dies. That's why they don't want a dog.

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u/McDemm 3d ago

This is wholesome

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u/TrackinThots 3d ago

People must not understand how much it sucks to lose a dog in the ending chapters of our lives.

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u/R2Pete2 3d ago

Dads will take some affection and appreciation anywhere they can get it 🥲

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u/idkburneridkidk 3d ago

Same thing happened with my step-dad and his cat. Didn't want a cat, hated cats. One day small cat walks in between his legs I to his work on a rainy day. 13 years later he still cuddles her more than my mom.

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u/Vharkhan 3d ago

This is me with my cat. I’m an animal lover, but grew up with an extended family of dog lovers. Never really interacted with cats much. When my fiancée (now wife) asked if we could get a cat from her friend who needed to rehome him, I agreed because I knew how much it meant to her. We’ve had Storm for about 11 years now and he is my dude!

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u/Derp_Aderpy 3d ago

He says he doesn't want anything to do with the dog.

But nowadays he just claims he doesn't want to do anything with the dog.

So now he isn't doing anything. WITH the dog.

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u/ragn4rok234 3d ago

It was a misinterpretation. He wants to sit and do nothing with the dog

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u/LilMacDiddy 3d ago

Your dad looks like the Don.

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u/Tre_fidde 3d ago

It’s not cause he hates dogs it’s because you become attached and then they die along with a piece of you each time. He’s a sensitive guy trying to protect his hard ass dad feelings.

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u/yankstraveler 3d ago

It's what they're supposed to say. It's required just like when a dad straps something to the car and says "this isn't going anywhere."

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u/missleavenworth 3d ago

It works for moms, too. Allowed my kids to get a dog. I've never bonded to a dog in my entire life, and basically just resigned myself to the added responsibility for the sake of my kids mental health. Cutest doggo became my shadow. She guard an protec the food bearer. Yes, I'm sunk, and a push over.